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The 5 Biggest Mistakes That Men Make In Bed - Are You Guilty? (Video)

Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 19:01:59 +0000

It’s no secret that men often make mistakes in bed. Men’s bedroom blunders are the talk of many a girl’s night cocktail hour, office gossip and one on one girlfriend phone calls. You can’t stop gals from talking about your bedroom mistakes, but you CAN stop making mistakes in the bedroom! Here’s the 5 biggest mistakes that men make in bed – avoid them at all costs!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’ve had sex with a few guys, but they all seem to be doing something wrong in the bedroom and I can’t put my finger on it! Is this a common thing? Do a lot of guys make mistakes in bed and if so, exactly what mistakes are they making?

–Judy, LA

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When A Man Isn’t Dominant In Bed

Women are drawn to confident men both emotionally and sexually. In bed, one of the biggest mistakes a man can make is expecting the woman to lead and make all the moves. Sometimes women want to be dominant, but more often, women want a man who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to let a woman know. Don’t be shy about taking the lead in bed – if you want her to go down on you, let her know! If you want to make love to her, just go for it! No girl wants a jerk, but every girl is drawn to a man that is enough of an alpha male that he can take control and she can simply surrender.

When A Man Is Emotionally Distant

You might not think your emotions are involved in the bedroom, but they definitely are, whether you’re with a long time partner or in a new relationship. If you stand behind an emotional wall outside of the bedroom, you’re going to stand behind one inside the bedroom too. Not letting your partner get emotionally close to you during sex really puts her off – you seem indifferent to her, as though you could sleep with her or not and that it doesn’t matter. A woman doesn’t want to think you’re indifferent about sex! Let her in emotionally, let her know that you want her and she will want you right back.

When Men Become Boring And Predictable

Most men get excited when they find a sex technique that a girl likes. They get so excited that they want to repeat that technique over and over, because if it worked the first time, why wouldn’t it work the next twenty times? Girls don’t want a man to become predictable – they want him to be passionate and interested in finding new things that please them. So try new positions, try using sex toys and try lots of different things so you can find several things that she likes and always keep her guessing at what is going to happen next.

When A Man Is Technique Obsessed

Many men are interested in learning lots of techniques that make them better lovers – and kudos to them for taking the initiative to learn more about what a woman wants! But some men become obsessed with technique, to the point of leaving out the emotions and spontaneity of great sex. Don’t let your brain get overwhelmed with techniques – even if something doesn’t work exactly like the book says, go with the flow and focus more on having a great time and giving your partner pleasure.

When Men Pretend To Know Everything

Some men have all the techniques down pat, and others just pretend that they do. The only problem with that is that women can see right through it! Don’t worry about looking like you know exactly what you’re doing. Worry more about learning about how to do things right and being yourself in the process!

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Sex God Method’: “If You Want to Give Women Screaming Orgasms, This May Be The Most Important Video You’ll Ever Watch”

HIS Secret Sex Zones: How to Make Him Beg for More

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 01:00:20 +0000

Can you REALLY pleasure your man in bed? Sure, he reaches his climax and all but do you think he considers you a SEX GODDESS?

It may not take a lot to ensure that your boyfriend/husband/lover reaches a climax but the ‘intensity’ of that peak is what we’re talking about here. So ladies, to stand out from all the rest listen up because you’ll now learn how to truly treat him to mind-blowing sex. The secret? Knowing his secret sex zones.

That’s right, men - just like us women - have certain pleasure buttons too and if you know where they are and, more importantly, HOW to stimulate them then you’ll soon make him scream in bed.

So in the interest of ’science’, I and couple more female friends, took it upon ourselves to experiment so that we can give you the low-down on male sex zones.

HIS Hot Zone # 1: Cremaster 101

You may be thinking we made up this name but seriously, there IS such a word as cremaster and it’s a muscle that covers the male testicles. This wonder muscle works pretty much like a bungee cord or rope and it pulls the testicles up (when they’re exposed to cold) and down (when they’re exposed to warmth). You can thus say that the purpose of cremaster is to ensure that the testicles are protected by regulating temperature.

How to master the cremaster: When your partner is just about to come, his testicles retreat. Think of it as a spring coiling tight before the big deployment! It’s of course the cremaster that’s making this ‘coiling’ possible. In contrast, lightly pulling down on his family jewels while making love helps delay ejaculation, thus extending pleasure. So, if you want him to be delirious without pleasure for a long time, make sure you are delaying the effects of the cremaster!

For instance, as you perform fellatio, make sure that you are gently pulling or tugging at his balls. Your tongue action on his member will make him want to explode, but your pulling action is preventing the cremaster from tightening and pulling the testicles up to the point that he reaches a climax. It’s sort of like finding the secret to lasting all night!

As you try the tip above, be sure that you’re not tugging too hard. Remember you want to delay his climax while providing pleasure. You want a deep moan out of him, not a shout of pain.

HIS Hot Zone # 2: The P-Spot

If we women have the G-spot (Gräfenberg spot), men have the P-spot or what is called the prostate, which is actually a gland that holds a fluid that gets ejected with semen as he climaxes. The prostate is just about the size of a walnut and it surrounds the urethra. And just like our g-spots, when the prostate is stimulated, he can be in for a very wild erotic ride.

How to master the P-spot: To stimulate his prostate, you need to know about the corpus cavernosa first. These tissues run over the length of the penis (from the pubic bone to the penis head) and are actually the ways by which blood pumps to the penis, making it erect.

So to cut the long story short, stimulate his penis and you, in effect, stimulate his P-spot. What’s the best way to do this, you ask?

Wrap your dainty hand around his member and instead of making an up and down motion as you normally would, push your hand - gently! - towards him. The result? The corpus cavernosa tissues will go down and ‘cuddle’ the prostate.

HIS Hot Zone #3: Perineum

The perineum is that diamond-shaped area between his balls and back door. It feels slight hard to the touch but it’s jam-packed with nerve endings that can easily send him to erotic heaven!

How to master the perineum: You can stimulate the perineum anytime you wish since it’s pretty much located at an ‘accessible’ angle. However, what a lot of women forget is to stimulate it just when he’s about to come.

For instance, most men seem to prefer to be in the missionary position when they’re ready to explode. So, when you sense that he’s nearing his climax, simply reach down between his legs and press this diamond-shaped pleasure nub with the knuckle of your index finger. Why the knuckle? Well, it really is sensitive so you want to avoid scratching him there. You want him to shout in pleasure and not to shout (at you!) in annoyances or pain.

If on the other hand, you want to stimulate the perineum at the onset of lovemaking, think of it as his clitoris. By this, we mean you should make sure that you are applying various degrees and types of pleasure. (Isn’t it that our clitoris sort of becomes immune, if not even irritated, if it’s constantly treated to the exact same treatment or pressure?)

So be sure that you massage, draw lazy circles, press and ease away, and pretty much keep his perineum point on the edge as you stimulate him.

HIS Hot Zone #4: Lips

Well, what do you know, one of his erogenous zones is one of ours too: the lips. This is not surprisingly really. After all, the membranes that make up the lips are packed with nerve endings. So the next time you think that he’s not much of a kisser, give him a lip treat that will MAKE him want to be kissed over and over again.

How to master his lips: It’s soooo easy to kiss your partner on the lips that you probably just go ahead and plant a big wet one anytime you like. Well, this time, make him beg for it by kissing him everywhere… EXCEPT on the lips. And make him really anticipate it too by making sure you plant really wet, sloppy kisses elsewhere on his body. Make sure you apply various kisses too: wet ones, hard ones, quick ones, sucking ones, you get the idea.

All these moves will make him want you to kiss him full on the lips soon. And when you finally ‘give in’, make sure you do various things such as lining his lips with your tongue, and when they’re wet, exhale gently on them. This wet-cool technique will drive him WILD!

His Hot Zone #5: Nipples

Remember the times when you thought you were almost ‘coming’ because he’s soooo good licking, grazing and sucking your nipples? Well, guess what, you can apply the same delirious pleasure on him.

True, his nipples are not as ‘obvious’ as ours even when they’re hard and erect. However, those little nubs are still packed full of pleasure nerves that you can tap!

How to master his nipples: Start off by kissing, licking and breathing your hot breath on his nipples. That would make them erect enough! Now, as you go on your favorite woman-on-top position, give him a double sensory delight. By this, we mean make his eyes dance with delight as your bosom jiggles up and down in front of you as you ride him. While this is going on, reach out and draw lazy circles around his nipples! We guarantee, he won’t know to which pleasure he should focus on!

So there you have it; five secret sex zones for you to play with tonight. Enjoy!

Take just a minute to check out ‘Blow His Mind Tonight’: “What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!”

Luxury Vibrators - The Best Sex Toys You’ll Ever Own (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 01:00:10 +0000

Vibrators - they’re available almost everywhere. On the Internet, in traditional sex toy stores and even in some novelty mall stores and department stores. There are thousands of different kinds of vibrators in many different price ranges with a whole host of features. How on earth do you go about choosing one that you know will work for you?

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High End Vibrators

While there are a number of modestly priced vibrators that are easily available for purchase, they often will break quickly or won’t do the job right. If you want a quality, whisper quiet vibrator, your best bet is to go with a high end vibrator. Although these types are more expensive than ones that you’ll find in novelty stores, you will get so much more for your money. If you’ve ever bought cheaper products and ended up having to replace them several times, you might already know that a more expensive product will actually save you money in the long run. But what if you could find the perfect vibrator with everything you wanted that was sleek and discreet? Believe it or not, sex toys have come a long way from the tacky dildos of the past and the perfect vibrator isn’t just wishful thinking anymore.

Lelo Vibrators

Want the ultimate class available in a vibrator? Lelo’s sleek toys are among the best the world has to offer in vibrators and you’ll be surprised at how well they do the job. The ultra sleek, Nea clitoral massager fits right in the palm of your hand and is incredibly quiet, while the GiGi will give you rocking G-Spot orgasms in mere minutes. Lelo’s toys are made with body safe materials and are discreet enough to bring along with you anywhere. Don’t forget about the super chic men’s toys available from Lelo - say goodbye to bulky, tacky anal plugs and say hello to “Bob”: the sleekest, most stylish ‘gentleman’s’ plug available.

Jimmy Jane Toys

Jimmy Jane’s products come in a variety of styles and colors, offering exquisite pleasure with the widest array of choices. Why limit yourself when it comes to your own pleasure? Try a classier version of the iconic “Rabbit” vibrator, or explore the incredible completely waterproof, rechargable Form 6 vibrator with a cordless charging dock. If you really want to wrap yourself in luxury, indulge in one of Jimmy Jane’s famous slim vibrators in real platinum or real gold, adorned with almost a carat of conflict-free diamonds. Set the mood with Jimmy Jane’s ultra luxurious fantasy suede play sets, or scent your room with sexy, delicious emollient candles. And for the men and their partners to use simultaneously, the Iconic Ring is a waterproof penis ring that will keep you erect and titillate your partner’s clitoris in a chic and modern way!

Vibrators can be a great addition to your sex life whether you’re flying solo or with a partner. Finding the right vibrator for you doesn’t have to be an ordeal of spending tons of money just to be disappointed. Just put together what you would have spent on a multitude of cheaper, tackier vibrators and just buy one luxe, perfect vibrator that you’ll keep for the rest of your life. Who says pleasure isn’t a smart investment?

Women: How To Have More Orgasms

Jessica Perez, author Faster Female Orgasm — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 01:00:59 +0000

It’s a fact; women tend to need more time to reach their orgasms.

During the few times you’ve managed to reach a climax with your lover, it felt GREAT, right?

So why not apply a few tactics to guarantee the process to bliss? How? Easy. Just learn MORE regarding your own body. The more you know about what makes you tic sexually, the sooner your climax will be. I asked a few sexuality experts to help us out and following are their wonderful tips. Try them all and figure out which one works best for you. Who knows, they may ALL work for you.

Self-Pleasuring 101

Firstly, engage a little ALONE time naked. As you stimulate yourself, concentrate to the state of your mind and how your body reacts up until you reach your climax. Later, when you are with your man, try to re-create these moves.

It’s also imperative to develop an exciting mood. The idea is to establish a scenario that supports a very sexy mindset. For example, sure, you may know what ‘moves’ to apply to induce orgasm but if you open your eyes and see clutter all around, that will zap your sexual mood. Try soft pillows, scented candles, and soft, romantic music. Find out what ambiance works for you and go about ’staging it’.

Create A Mental Sex Picture

When it comes to sex, men are visual creatures, whereas females are more mental ones. To put it in simple terms, we women like to be ’sexed up’ up down there before he even makes a move. So to help you reach your orgasm sooner during sex, think of all the hot and sexy things he’s going to do to you (or that you want him to do) tonight. Paint a sexy mental picture and you’ll find that you will be twice more excited as he actually goes about doing the deed.

If visualization is not enough, don’t be afraid to engage in a little self-pleasuring. However, you should NOT reach a climax. Just make things hot - but not too hot - for yourself. When you make love with your partner, your body will instinctively start from where you left off earlier, making orgasm within easy reach.

Sure-Fire Orgasmic Sexual Positions

Females have two major sexual key points: the clitoris and the G-spot. The G-spot, or the Grafenberg spot, is located about 2-3 inches up the front of your vaginal wall. And one of the best ways to locate this spot is to insert your (or his!) index and middle fingers, palm up, inside you and search for a slight bump (like the clitoris, the G-Spot gets engorged when stimulated). So it makes sense that the straight road to orgasm is to stimulate both these sex zones simultaneously!

For instant stimulation of both these areas, woman-on-top seems to be the winning position. This is because in this position, you get to control the angle by which his penis hits your G-spot, the depth of penetration, and other factors.

Now, I did say double stimulation, right? So for your clitoris, give it the attention it deserves by grinding your front against his body. Be sure to try various speeds and movements. For instance, make your hips grind against him in a circular fashion rather than going up and down. This way, you get to stimulate the clitoris as you move up, and his penis gets to hit your g-spot as you move down.

Of course, there’s also the doggy-style position. In this position, his penis is angled almost dead on your G-spot!

If he’s gifted in the size department down there, he may even hit your A-spot, a place some scientists think is capable of producing mind-numbing orgasms too. At the very least, going on all fours enables you to NOT face your lover if you’re the shy type.

If you want to increase the pleasure you feel, you can also squeeze your pubococcygeus (PC) muscles (the ones you use when you try to stem the flow of your urine) during sex. By squeezing these muscles, you are pulling your clitoris and vagina inwards, increasing the level of friction against them as he thrusts.

How to Maximize Your Pleasure

A woman’s body has many sexual secrets. There are a lot of erotic nooks and crannies. The key is to be able to stimulate as many hot buttons as possible at any given time.

For instance, I just love it when my man goes all oral on me. But when he reaches upwards too to fondle my erect nipples as his tongue does his magic down there, I get to the Big O faster than I can blink!

You can also try the ‘reverse cow girl’ position, where you go on top of him but are facing his feet. This position enables you to have your G-spot stimulated by his penis… while your hands are busy stimulating your C-spot at the front. And of course, encourage to multi-task too! Whatever position, tell him to touch, caress, lick and rub anywhere!

Gadgets to Speed Up the Big O

Sometimes, a few sex toys increase the pace to a mind-blowing orgasm. For instance, too much thrusting can make your vagina a tad dry so why not use a bit of lubricant so that everything flows (pun intended) smoothly?

Also, why not experiment with some sex gadgets? For instance, whip out the vibrator and really give your clit a titillating time. If you think this will offend your lover then just slip on a ‘finger vibrator’ on him, which will help, rather than replace, his stimulating moves. For his pleasure, why not put on a penis ring? There’s also buzz toys that you can place between your bodies to give you both a tingly feeling each time you grind against each other.

Orgasmic timing is always a bone of contention between males and females. Bridge that climactic gap by finding ways to speed up yours. It’s a win-win situation so go for it!

Take just a minute to check out ‘Faster Female Orgasm’: “How To Reach Orgasm During Intercourse In Just 5 Minutes (Or Less)”

Cuckold Fantasy: My Wife With Another Man - Why Do I Like It? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 01:00:28 +0000

Everyone has a secret sex fantasy - what’s yours? Maybe you have a shoe fetish, or perhaps you enjoy BDSM or biting. What is considered outside the norm for you? What if you like watching your wife get banged by another man and really enjoy it? Is this considered abnormal? Should you stop indulging in your fantasy? Here’s what you want to know about 2 guy, 1 girl threesomes and more.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Cuckold question: I like watching my wife get banged by a well endowed man. I love watching her climax in ways she doesn’t with me. Is this TOO weird?

–John, IN

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Who Gets To Determine What Is Normal?

First of all, what is considered “normal” in this society? There are so many varieties of people with different cultures and different backgrounds who all do things a little bit differently that it’s practically impossible for anyone to determine a baseline of what is considered “normal” or “abnormal.” With that said, people might think your fantasy is weird if you share it with them, but what about those guys who like wearing women’s underwear - do you think that’s weird? Everyone’s own fantasy or fetish isn’t considered strange to them, but other people’s fantasies are labeled “weird” or “abnormal.” It’s all subjective, so worry less about what is “normal” and what isn’t and focus more on how to get what you and your partner both want in a sexually healthy relationship.

Confidence In Your Sexuality And Masculinity

If you enjoy watching your wife have sex with another man and are genuinely cool with it, you deserve some kudos! While involving other women with their wife in a 2-girl, 1 guy threesome is a typical man’s fantasy, the tables often get turned when a woman suggests bringing another man into the equation. Most men are too self conscious, too jealous and too insecure with themselves to really enjoy watching their partner be with another person sexually. If you’re not bothered by watching your wife become sexually intimate with another man and truly enjoy watching her be pleasured in this way, it speaks volumes about your confidence in yourself and your masculinity.

Have Fun!

The best way to judge if your sexual fantasy or fetish is “crossing” the line is to ask yourself the basic question - does it involve only consenting adults? Is everyone comfortable with what is going on? If so, have fun! As long as you and everyone involved can legally consent to sexual activity and no one is being harmed or doing something they’re uncomfortable doing, there is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying your sexual fetish or fantasy. Make sure your relationship with your partner stays strong and healthy, and communicate with them regularly about what you like, what she likes and what the third person likes during sex. If any hard feelings come up, talk to your partner about them. If you have any suggestions about what would turn you on more, or if your partner has any suggestions about what would turn them on more, it’s important to keep an open line of communication going when it comes to your sex life. The biggest reason that threesome fantasies crumble is that partners have a breakdown in communication - enjoy yourself and talk to your partner often for a healthy and happy sex life!

The C-Spot and G-Spot Orgasm Cocktail

Jessica Perez, author Faster Female Orgasm — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 15:46:41 +0000

Women have two main sex zones: the clitoris and the g-spot or the Grafenberg spot. Most women come via clitoral stimulation. Not really surprising as it’s the one more accessible between the two. And if you’ve ever had a g-spot orgasm then you KNOW how earth-shattering THAT can be.

So why not aim for higher sexual heights with a ‘blended orgasm’?

What’s a Blended Orgasm?

As the name suggests, a blended orgasm is one where you climax via your clitoris (c-spot) AND Grafenberg spot (g-spot). As these pleasure zones are located in different places, the orgasm that you feel from one largely differs from the other. As a result, if you can stimulate both and climax from both simultaneously, then you can say you’ve hit the mother load of climaxes!

The Blended O… Solo

Before you run off to tell your man that you want a blended orgasm, take some time to figure out how to do this first on your own. This way, you can guide him better and can remove any possible awkwardness or frustration later together in bed.

The best way to try this is to close the curtains (or dim the lights), play some soft music, and then lie down. When you feel relaxed, start to stimulate your clitoris. No rush, just take your time.

When you’re finally wet and really aroused, leave off your c-spot for a while and go seek your g-spot. Insert your index finger inside and try to feel alongside the front wall of your vagina for a slightly rough and engorged nub. In general, you g-spot should feel like the upper side of your mouth. Don’t worry; when you’re close the g-spot you will definitely feel it because waves of arousal will hit you.

Note that as you stimulate your g-spot, you may feel this sudden urge urinate. Oftentimes, this is when things go wrong because women, thinking that they’ll embarrass themselves by peeing, will start to tense up and demand for the stimulation to stop. On the contrary, just keep on going and this feeling will soon come to pass.

Now as you feel yourself nearing your g-spot climax, use your other hand (or if your fingers are long enough and you can angle your hand properly, use the thumb on the same hand you’re suing to stimulate your g-spot) to go back and titillate your clitoris.

All I can say at this point is get ready for tremendous tremors to rock your body!

The Blended O… In Tandem

Now that you know how to bring yourself to a combi-orgasm, it’s time to bring your lover into the equation.

Lie down as comfortably as you can on the bed and ask your men to prop your hips with a small pillow. (This is to elevate your groin.) To warm you - and him - up, ask for some oral loving.

When you’re all hot and wet, tell him now’s the time to enter. As he thrusts, his penis should hit the gspot (thanks to your slightly elevated position). If this is not the case, then tilt your hips higher. If it helps, tell him to ‘drag’ you to the edge of the bed so that he’s standing as he thrusts. Continue until you’re just about to burst from a g-spot climax.

When you feel this is the case, then either ask him to finger your clitoris or do it yourself. (Nice visuals for him!)

AGAIN… all I can say at this point is get ready for tremendous tremors to rock your body!

Sex Positions for More Blended Oomph

Now that you guys have the Blended O basics covered, it’s time to experiment with new positions!

Try doggy-style. When you get on all fours, your behind is naturally slightly tilted already. As such, his penis is correctly angled to hit your g-spot like a marked bull’s eye! For the Blended O to occur, simply reach down and fondle your clitoris or better yet ask him to do it!

Try reverse woman-on-top. Women just love the woman-on-top position because we get to control the depth, speed, and even the roughness of intercourse. Well here’s another reason to love this position, it’s great for c-spot and g-spot stimulation especially when you do reverse woman-on-top (i.e., when you stride him the other way and you’re facing his feet).

As you ride his pole, reach down and make sure your c-spot does not feel neglected. Contract and relax your internal muscles to ensure increased friction between your genitals. Plus, it’s a nice treat for his penis!

And for the third time… all I can say at this point is get ready for tremendous tremors to rock your body!

Take just a minute to check out ‘Faster Female Orgasm’: “How To Reach Orgasm During Intercourse In Just 5 Minutes (Or Less)”

How Do I Introduce BDSM To My Boyfriend? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 01:26:22 +0000

Everyone has their fantasy or fetish, and everyone likes different things. It’s part of what makes us such a sexually diverse culture! Many people are into BDSM, or bondage, whether it’s soft BDSM or really getting into dominant and submissive roles. If you like BDSM, how can you introduce it to your partner without getting rejected and possibly even involving them in your fetishes and fantasies?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’m very comfortable with my sexuality and a little on the BDSM side… I’ve been this way for years. My fiance and I have done a few things, but I want to try even more - costumes, props, etc. I don’t think he knows how dark my sexual side can be. How can I bring it up to him without scaring him?

–Desiree, MO

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Let Your Partner Go First

Ask your partner what turns them on. This is not the time for a “sit down” talk, rather, you want to ask him in a very nonchalant sort of way. Bring it up if you’re watching a romantic movie with a hot sex scene, or even if you’re watching pornography together. If you’re visiting the mall, pop into the lingerie store or even the novelty stores that carry some sex toys. Asking your partner what turns them on opens them up to their own fantasies and gets their minds going.

Introduce Yourself Slowly

Don’t break into your fetish by surprising your partner with a leash and collar while wearing a full black leather outfit. You might scare them off! Try incorporating light BDSM into your foreplay and sexual routine, such as using a feather duster or even a light whip. Try purchasing some racier lingerie, or sexy shoes that reflect what turns you on. You can even suggest roleplaying light BDSM roles, such as light submission or light dominance. You might find that your partner really likes this type of sex play and begins to get more into it! If this happens, just ease into your fetish or fantasy slowly, until you’re really sharing with your partner what you like and what turns you on.

Try A Fantasy Box

A “Fantasy Box” is something you and your partner can try if you’re really shy about sharing your fantasies with your partner or your partner is really shy about sharing their fantasies with you. Write down your fantasies on a scrap piece of paper and put it in the box. Have your partner do the same. Make a “rule” that once a week, a fantasy is pulled out of the box and is enacted. If some fantasies require planning, give you and your partner enough time to purchase costumes, etc. This can even be something fun that you do together that can bring you and your partner closer! Decorate the fantasy box with things you both find sexy to make it even more fun.

No matter what, your sex life should be enjoyable and fulfilled, no matter what fetish or fantasy you like. You might be surprised – your fetish or fantasy probably isn’t as uncommon as you think it is! If your partner is freaked out by your fetish, whether it’s BDSM or something else, and you can’t work past it, consider that they might not be the partner for you. Remember – there’s someone out there for everyone!

Sperm, Semen and Safe Sex - What You Need To Know (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 01:00:50 +0000

Sex education, unfortunately, is at a low nowadays. Although our society has evolved exponentially since sex was considered completely taboo – sex education is still primitive. Television shows, movies, music and even the Internet has taken sex to a completely new level, with songs about “booty calls” and nudity on prime time, but adults in this nation can’t bear to discuss more than the scant basics of sex with their youth. It’s about time somebody steps up and gives solid, useful information about every aspect of sex in an educational way so that our youth can make informed decisions about sex, oral sex and foreplay.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My girlfriend gives me blow jobs, hand jobs, etc. Every time we play, this white sticky stuff come out, and then after a few minutes cum comes out - what is all this stuff coming out of me?

–Jason, TX

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Sperm, Semen and Precum

Lots of girls want to know – what’s the skinny on sperm, semen and precum? What are they?

Precum – The clear, thinnish and somewhat sticky liquid that comes out of the head of the penis in small amounts during penile stimulation before he actually ejaculates. Precum can and does contain live sperm, although in significantly smaller amounts than actual semen.

Semen – The whitish, thicker fluid that comes out of the head of the penis during ejaculation that contains millions of sperm.

Sperm – Organisms carried within semen and precum that join with a woman’s egg to conceive a child.

Which Of These Can Get A Girl Pregnant?

In short – all of them! Precum and semen both contain sperm. Having unprotected sex without a condom, even before the man ejaculates, can get a woman pregnant. It is better to treat a penis like a loaded gun. Many women believe that allowing a man to have intercourse with her without a condom is safe, as long as the guy pulls his penis out of her vagina before he ejaculates, and ejaculates away from her vagina. While this is safer than allowing your partner to actually ejaculate inside you, it is not a way to protect against pregnancy. Sperm can travel out of the penis pretty much at any time – allowing a condomless penis to get within the vicinity of your vagina puts you at a definite risk of getting pregnant.

Don’t chance it! Even allowing your partner to rub his penis on the outside of your vagina without a condom can transmit sperm from the penis to the vagina and there’s a reason that sperm are called “little swimmers.” They travel! For the safest type of sex, use a condom to prevent pregnancy. You can also discuss with your doctor other methods of birth control that can be used in conjunction with a condom for added protection, or in lieu of a condom if your with an STD free partner and in a completely faithful, monogamous relationship.

Which Of These Can Transmit A Sexually Transmitted Disease?

In short – all of them! Again, treat a condomless penis like a loaded gun, even more so if you’re unsure if your partner has a sexually transmitted disease. To clarify, unless you have a piece of paper in your hand that says your partner has tested negative for STD’s and you’re 110% positive your partner has not had any type of sexual contact with anyone else since the test was taken, you’re unsure of whether your partner has an STD. Protect yourself. Both precum and semen can carry the HIV and AIDS virus, as well as other sexually transmitted diseases. It is important to be even more vigilant if you’re concerned about STD’s, however, because you don’t just have to worry about any fluids from your partner’s penis coming into contact with your vagina, you also have to worry about these fluids possibly coming into contact with your mouth or any open sores or cuts on your body.

For example, if you knicked yourself shaving and your partner rubs his penis up your leg without a condom, you can possibly contract an STD that way. It’s rare – yes. But possible. Be safe and get STD tested, suggest that your partner get STD tested, stay in a monogamous, faithful relationship whenever possible, and use condoms during anal sex, oral sex and vaginal intercourse any time you’re unsure. Always treat your partner’s penis as though it can get you pregnant or give you an STD because in truth – it can! That doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy sex. Just be safe and smart about it!

Painful Sex - Should It Still Hurt? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 23:00:43 +0000

Some women experience painful sex, especially if they’re having sex for the first time. Is painful sex normal? Sometimes sex can hurt, especially if your partner is too rough, but what if sex is painful all the time? What if it never gets better? Here’s what you need to do if sex still hurts for you.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I lost my virginity over a year ago, but every time we have sex it feels like losing my virginity all over again. Should it still be hurting? Is this normal?

–Danielle, PA

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Why Does It Hurt?

Sex can hurt for a variety of reasons. Some of them are medical, others are not. Let’s take a quick look at the medical issues that can cause sex to become painful and stay that way with no relief. There are many sexually transmitted diseases and vaginal infections that can cause sex to be painful. Chlamydia and Gonorrhea are among the many STD’s that can cause vaginal discharge, odor and painful sex for a woman.

Untreated STD’s will continue causing these symptoms and they may become worse or even unbearable. Common vaginal infections, such as yeast or bacterial infections, can cause discomfort during sex with or without other symptoms. If sex has become painful for you, it is important to see your medical doctor for an exam to rule out any medical issues or infections that could be causing your discomfort. Find a doctor you are comfortable with, and don’t worry – doctors see it all! You should feel comfortable enough with your doctor to discuss your sexual habits and the reasons you might be feeling sexual discomfort – if you’re not, it’s time to find a new doctor.

Common Issues

Common issues for uncomfortable or painful sex go beyond medical issues. There are a few reasons beyond your control – and some that are within your control – that could be responsible for sex becoming and staying painful. First, your partner may be too large for you. Whether your partner is exceptionally large or not, he may be too large for your anatomy. Everyone is made differently and although vaginas are extremely accomodating, your partner’s hardware may just not match yours in a way that is comfortable for you. You also may be prone to vaginal dryness. This isn’t necessarily a medical issue, however, it can cause plenty of discomfort during sex.

What To Do

Other than seeing a medical doctor to rule out any physical issues for painful sex, you can make sure you have lots of foreplay before sex and are very, very relaxed and aroused. This will help you to make soothing vaginal secretions that will aid any vaginal dryness, as well as help your vagina to better accommodate a larger penis, if that is the case. You can also use a good, water based lubricant during sex, and try different positions that allow for less penetration if you feel that your partner may be too large for you.

No matter what, sex shouldn’t be painful, or especially continue to be painful. It should be pleasurable! Talk to your doctor to see what you can do to make sex more enjoyable for both you and your partner. Your doctor may recommend a sex therapist, after ruling out any medical conditions responsible, to better help you and your partner to find ways to make sex more enjoyable and comfortable for you.

Is Cross Dressing A Turn Off To Women? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 22:00:37 +0000

Cross dressing isn’t something that’s a totally foreign concept to women, but not many of them have dated a guy that likes to cross dress. Does that mean cross dressing is a turn off to women, or do some women enjoy cross dressing? Or do still other women just not mind it? Here’s what you want to know about how women feel about cross dressing dudes.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I have a fetish for cross dressing. I like dressing up in sexy lingerie, but I don’t go out in public or anything. Are the any women out there who are open enough to consider this a normal part of a healthy sex life? I also like the idea of dressing up as a French maid and submitting myself to the lady of the manner….

–Jonathan, FL

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Some Like It, Some Don’t

Many women aren’t going to be turned on by men who enjoy cross dressing – it’s just fact. While some women don’t mind it, some are going to be turned off by it. That doesn’t mean you have to give up what you enjoy though! There are women who enjoy cross dressing themselves, and who enjoy being with men who like to cross dress. There’s someone for everyone, no matter what your fetish or fantasy is. You just have to find them!

Where To Look

Okay, so popping over to the bookstore might help you meet a nice girl, it’s not likely to be the best place to meet someone who either won’t mind your cross dressing or someone who might even share your fetish with you. There are, however, lots of good places online to meet people who share your interests or similar interests to yours! Browse through online dating websites or online fetish websites where you can specify your interest in cross dressing before you even meet someone. It’s refreshing to know right off the bat that someone who shows interest in you through these websites know that you enjoy cross dressing and either like it or don’t have a problem with it.

How To Tell Someone Who Doesn’t Know

What if you’re already involved with someone or are dating someone who doesn’t know that you like to cross dress but you would like to share this fetish with them? This can be a tricky situation, but it’s definitely not an impossible one. Don’t have a “sit down” talk with them. This can be uncomfortable and will put your partner on the spot, and it can be especially awkward if they don’t react to your cross dressing in the way you expected. Try introducing it slowly. Buy a silky robe and see if your partner likes the feel of it on you. Try wearing her panties to bed and see what she thinks – if she doesn’t like it, you can always play it off as having fun. If she does, visit a lingerie shop with her, and pick out fun, sexy lingerie for both of you. Sharing your cross dressing with her slowly can help warm her up to the idea, and then you can begin to share your fantasies with her!

No matter what your fetish or fantasy is, it’s important to have someone you can share it with. Don’t judge other people and don’t let them judge you – to each his own and there’s always someone out there for everybody!

4 Mistakes On How To Give Head To A Guy

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 21:00:50 +0000

Would you like to have a crash course on how you can master the art of fellatio? As you may already know, being good at oral sex is a skill that most women would like to develop – but it’s quite intimidating once you’re down there.

What if your teeth graze the skin of his penis while you’re giving him a blowjob? What if you accidentally suck too hard because you don’t know the right amount of pressure to apply? What if your gagging reflex is triggered?

Learning how to give head to a guy properly would normally involve mistakes – especially if you’re new at it. But don’t worry, practice makes perfect. In order for you to be a better lover, take a look first at the top 5 mistakes that most women make when going down on a man – and these are the things that you should steer clear of.

Mistake #1: Not Being Enthusiastic Enough

For both men and women, being with an unresponsive lover is a definite turn off. The same thing applies to a woman who considers giving blowjobs to be a chore.

When you’re going down on him, show him how much you love what you’re doing. Maintain eye contact, don’t be afraid to slobber a bit and make the moans and groans that you would usually make when you’re having penetrative sex.

Your enthusiasm would be a huge turn on for him and help him achieve an orgasm real quick.

Mistake #2: Not Allowing Things To Get Really Wet

It may sound distasteful for women, but most men agree that the more saliva or lubrication you use while giving him head, the better the feeling is for them. Before you move your mouth up and down his penis, wet it with your saliva.

Better yet, be a bit on the creative side and swallow a bit of warm coffee or some cold water before taking him into your mouth. The sensation of the liquid combined with the sucking motions that you will make should send him through the roof!

Mistake #3: Grazing Him With Your Teeth

Although some men would not mind feeling a bit of a graze from your teeth while receiving head, it is not a sensation that everyone enjoys. The rule of no teeth while giving blow jobs should always apply – so keep those fangs covered with your lips.

Mistake #4: Not Communicating With Him

Just like every other aspect of your sex life, it will greatly improve your ‘performance’ if you will have a talk with him about what he likes when you’re giving him head.

Be extra attentive to his moans and groans while you’re down there, take a cue from how his hands are moving on the back of your head and how he is moving his hips. By avoiding the top 4 mistakes that women make when giving head, you will be on your way towards mastering your skills at fellatio and be the best lover that you can be.

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3 Mistakes That Women Make On How To Give A Massage Handjob

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 22:00:59 +0000

Even if you consider you and your partner to have an amazing sex life, there will come a point when you as a woman will not be in the mood to go all the way with him. Or, it could be that you just don’t have the time – but what if you want to help him release some of the sexual tension that he is feeling?

This is where a massage handjob comes in, well, handy. For the most part, your goal should be to stroke him using both of your hands until he reaches a satisfying climax. But if this is your goal, why is it that there are still some women who commit blunders when trying to give their man some manual loving using their hands?

If you want to keep his fire stoked, make sure that you will steer clear of the top 4 mistakes that women make when learning how to give a massage handjob.

Mistake #1: Leading Him On Endlessly & Not Delivering The Goods

Remember that most men want handjobs to be quick and satisfying. As such, you should make sure that when you start stroking his penis, your goal is also to give him a quick and satisfying orgasm.

Sure, you can tease his body a bit first just to get him hard before you zero in on his penis – but the main event should not last forever – otherwise, he may end up wanting to be inside your mouth or to go all the way through penetrative sex.

Mistake #2: Not Being Firm Enough

When you’re pleasuring yourself, you do have a secret touch, stroke or rhythm that drives you over the edge, right? For men, the same thing applies. So if you want to give him a really good handjob, make sure that you know the exact pressure to apply to his penis.

The shaft shouldn’t be handled like it’s an expensive vase – rather, think of it as a beer bottle that you would be gripping firmly and solidly. Better yet, let him show you the type and tightness of a grip that he wants to be applied to his penis so that you can end things quickly, with a bang.

Mistake #3: Not Talking To Him While Doing It

Learning how to give him a massage handjob is as good a time as any to polish your dirty talking skills. Don’t bombard him with questions like “Are you about to come?”. Instead, tease him with images of what you would like to do with him later on when you have more time to engage in some real, hot and sweaty sex.

Steer clear of the top 3 mistakes that women make when giving men a massage handjob – and he’ll practically be your willing slave once you manage to send him over the edge with highly satisfying results.
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3 Mistakes From How to Give Head Videos: Sex Lessons To Learn From Adult Videos About Giving Head

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 22:00:07 +0000

If there’s one thing about sex that men and women do not agree on, it’s the fact that men do like their porn – so much so that some seem to think that their sessions in the sack should mimic an adult film.

Although women do not find hardcore porn to be as arousing the way that men do, are there any ‘lessons’ that they can learn from something like a ‘how to give head video’? First, let’s try to check on the top mistakes that women make when giving men some oral love.

Mistake #1: Not Giving His Equipment All Your Attention

If there’s one thing that women should learn from female adult film stars, it’s the fact that enthusiasm counts for a lot. When you watch an adult film which features a woman giving head, you might be amazed at how enthusiastic she is – and keeps going at it for minutes and minutes!

There’s probably the fantasy factor added on to the mix – but the one lesson that you should learn is that men wouldn’t be watching these films if they’re not a major turn on. As such, take a cue from the adult film stars and give his equipment all your attention – and look like you mean to go on giving him head until he reaches his boiling point.

Mistake #2: Not Being Open To Different Positions

Visit any sex guide on the Internet and you will see that there is more than one position which will give you comfort – and give him the ultimate pleasure – while giving head. The next time that you see a unique position from a sex video, make sure to try some of the positions out.

Mistake #3: Not Trying to Take It All In

Being able to deep throat is like the Holy Grail of a woman’s sexual skills – and it is something that you should try at least once. If you find out that you’re unable to do it, that is perfectly fine because taking it all in should never be a requirement when giving head.

Now that you know about the top mistakes that women make on how to give head, you can probably take a cue from these adult videos so that you can amp up your own sex life.

Basically, the lessons that you should learn from something like a ‘how to give head video’ would be to appear enthusiastic while you’re going down on him; take your time in pleasuring a man while you’re down there and to use a combination of your hands, mouth, tongue and lips to give him sensations that will send him shooting though the roof!

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3 Mistakes & Blunders That You Should Not Make When Learning How To Give Head To A Guy!

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 21:00:22 +0000

Do I have to swallow once he ejaculates? What if he wants me to take it all in but I can’t? What if my gag reflex takes over and find out that once I’m down there, I just can’t do it? When learning how to give head to a guy, these are just some of the dilemmas that women face.

But if you want to give your man as much pleasure as he is giving you, then you would need to do your part and learn how to go down on him. If you’re at a loss as to what you should do once you’re down there, then let’s start with the top 3 mistakes that you should not make when giving head to a guy.

Mistake #1: Treating His Equipment Like Breakable China

This is probably one of the most common mistakes that women make when learning how to give head to a guy. This could be due to the fact that when men are performing cunnilingus, women prefer them to be a bit gentle – especially when targeting the clitoris.

However, when it comes to a man’s penis, it is neither fragile nor breakable so don’t think that you should treat it and hold it like your grandmother’s fine china. Sure, it’s okay to treat it gently initially, but when things heat up later on, you need to amp up the pressure.

Mistake #2: Going Too Fast When Going Down On Him

How many times have you heard the maxim that men are such visual creatures? This is perfectly true, so why would you want to make it look like you’re in a hurry when you’re going down on him?

It’s okay to indulge in a quickie every once in a while during penetrative sex, but giving him head is not one of those instances. Take your time, look him in the eye while you’re doing it and treat him to a visual, sensual feast while you’re loving his penis.

Mistake #3: Getting Carried Away With All That Sucking

You want him to moan in pleasure – not in pain – so don’t get carried away with all that sucking! There’s definitely a wrong way to give a guy head – and sucking too hard is one of them. This is especially true if you are dealing with the most sensitive part of his penis which is the head.

The best way to do it is by taking more and more of his penis – slowly – into your mouth, and then applying a moderate suction.

Make sure to avoid these top three blunders that women make when giving a guy head, and you’ll be on your way towards mastering the art of fellatio.

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Help! I Fantasize About Being A Prostitute! (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 31 May 2009 21:40:05 +0000

Everyone has a fantasy – some, more than others. Many people choose not to act out their fantasies, afraid that their fantasies will offend someone, or embarrass them. You can, however, act out your fantasy in a safe, fun way with your partner, making your sex life that much sweeter. How can you act out your fantasy with your partner, especially if you’re not sure that they share your fantasy?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I fantasize about being a prostitute, having sex with strangers and being naughty - having to do what the other person wants and even getting paid for it. I want to experience this fantasy with my husband, but he’s not comfortable being the ‘dominant’ one. How can we pull this off so that everyone has fun?

–Lisa, WA

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Consenting Adults Get The Green Light

When it comes to acting out a fantasy, as long as your fantasy is safe (as in, doesn’t cause anyone harm) and is between consenting adults, there’s no reason you shouldn’t be able to act out your fantasy and have fun! No matter what your fantasy is, if you’re not hurting anyone and everyone involved is okay with it, there’s nothing that should stop you from satisfying your deepest sexual desires and fantasies.

Sexual Compatibility

That said, many people don’t share the same fantasies and might be uncomfortable with another person’s fantasy. How can you tell if your partner is sexually compatible with you and your fantasy without putting yourself out there and risking embarrassment? The trick is not to have a “sit down” talk with your partner. Often, this can be overwhelming for a partner, especially if your fantasy is something they’ve never had any experience with before. Try introducing your partner to your fantasy slowly, by dressing in some lingerie or a costume that suits your fantasy, or even simply playing with dominant and submissive roles. If your partner shows that he or she is interested in your fantasy, or turned on by what you’re doing, try introducing a little more each time until you’re really ready to tell them about what you want to act out and what your fantasy is.

Fantasy Box

Many couples and partners use something called a “fantasy box” where they can submit their fantasies on paper in a safe and fun environment. With a fantasy box, you can write your fantasies down on a piece of paper, and slip it into the box. Every week (or however often you would like), you can pull a piece of paper out of the box and act out the fantasy. It’s fun to be spontaneous, and both you and your partner already know you’ll be acting out a fantasy, so you’ll be in a great mindset to have a good time! Some fantasies take a bit of preparation, so, it can also be fun to pull a fantasy out of the box a few weeks ahead of time and go shopping together for toys, lubes or costumes – whatever your fantasy requires!

The bottom line is, as long as your fantasy – whether it be acting out the fantasy of being a prostitute or something else – is between consenting adults, and you introduce your fantasy slowly to your partner or use a fantasy box, you can have fun indulging in your sexual desires and grow closer to your partner.